MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES
As humans, we are designed in such a way that we must make choices at every point in life.
Having to make decisions about little/less important things such as: what kind of clothes to
wear, which restaurant to have lunch, etc. are easy-to-make decisions we don’t really bother
about as long as we have the necessary resources.
Big choices that hold a big part of the defining moments in our life would need to be carefully
made. It’s easy to choose between a more qualified and less qualified option. It’s tougher to
choose between many qualified options, a situation where you have many good options but
you need to pick only one right option.
All of life is all about CHOICES.
In Deut. 30:19 (NKJV):
I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death,
blessing and cursing; therefore, choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.
IMPORTANT THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT CHOICES
Your choice determines your destiny:
Your destiny is your calling, your purpose, and essentially, God’s agenda for your life.
The choices you make also define your destiny.
Every choice has a consequence:
There are consequences to every choice you make, either good or bad. The
consequence(s) of your choice will hold you accountable at the end.
Your choice determines the consequence you get:
You only have the power to make a choice, but you do not have the privilege to choose
the consequences; the decisions and choices you make automatically choose the
consequences without your permission.
Consequences are more important than choices:
It is important to know the consequences of the choice you’ll be making. You can’t
afford to make a choice without knowing it’s consequences.
Bad choices lead to destruction:
We can be forgiven for the wrong choices we make but often we can’t undo the
consequences that bad choices bring on us. Esau tried to make amends for the bad
choice he made to sell his birth right for a plate of soup, but it was too late for him
For you to make the right choice(s) there are some crucial things to look out for which are the
Determinants of your choice.
DETERMINANTS OF THE QUALITY OF YOUR CHOICE
What you choose to consume:
The word ‘consume’ here isn’t about food. What you feed your eyes and your ears are
very important. What/who you listen to really matters in making the right choices. You
can’t feed your mind with fear and expect good to make the right choice. What you
listen to shapes your life choices and eventually whom you become.
2Tim 1:7 says, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of
a sound mind”. This passage points at the essence of sound mind. In fact, you need a
sound mind to make a sound choice.
Whom you choose as companion:
Your companion(s) or network of friends can also influence the quality of your choice.
The people you share you share your ideas with, the people you listen to their counsel
are great determinants of your choice. Wrong network of friends are more deadly than
viruses and can derail your vision and deplete your energy.
What you choose to call things:
Your perspective towards anything really matters in making the right choice. While King
Saul, David’s brothers and the Israelites army saw a Goliath; David saw an uncircumcised
philistine (1 Sam. 17:36). That gave him the sense of victory even before the battle
started. The mistake a lot of people make is that they magnify small problem and make
it look so big, which is not.
HOW TO MAKE RIGHT CHOICES
Here are five key steps to making the right choices:
- Pause: First, you must understand that to ‘pause’ is not a state of inaction or doing
nothing. Most times when you approach things in a rush you end up making the wrong
choice. Good things take time. Quick moves are not necessarily smart moves. Before
you make big decisions, learn to Pause and analyze your choice and its consequence,
with the guidance of the Holy spirit.
- Read: When you read you get more insight and more knowledge on the choice you want
to make. Spend quality time reading; studying the word of God, read books in the field
you are seeking to make a choice, e.g: marriage, business investment, etc. Reading
books increases your wisdom, knowledge and understanding because you are reading
the author’s lifetime experience, their success, mistakes, failures and how they
overcame it in one book.
- Ask: No one knows it all. Be humble enough to ask the right questions, most importantly
from the right people.
- Yield: To yield is to totally surrender to God and give up your power to choose for God
to have His way. Take no other validation other than that of the Holy spirit.
- Pray: Prayer is an inevitable part of the process. You don’t stop praying because you’re
not getting answer(s) immediately, you keep praying until you get your answer(s). As
you Pause, Read, Ask and Yield, you must pray ceaselessly all along, and God will help
you make the right choices.